Self improvement
The Truth Is The Truth by Kate Loving Shenk
[Aug 16, 2007]
Having to be right is a national pastime.
We all do it. We feel like we're in control when we fall into the illusion of having to be right.
The need to be the smartest person in the room stems from the need to be right, correct and in control.
Because of this peculiarity, none of us likes to be criticized.
My mother used to say: It's not what you say, but how you say it.
But she didn't like to be criticized, either.
In recovery circles, we take an inventory of the wrongs we have committed, the resentments we've held. Then, in order to take 100% responsibility, we see the part we played in the encountered difficulties, and when appropriate, go to the persons we have harmed, and apologize.
We get to be wrong. They get to be right.