When I find myself resisting honest criticism, I can tell myself: What I defend against is the truth I don't want to face.
Then I continue my Ho'oponopono practice to clean and erase all memory of past suffering brought on by the need to be perfect or to be the smartest person in the room.
The need for perfection, to be right are examples of stress that lead to war, abuse and violence.
Turn it around?
I don't need to be perfect or right in order to be happy, here and now.